'Good riddance to [an] insecure drama queen': Wedding guest refuses to wear green dress because it's not "flattering," gets kicked out by the bride

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Remy Millisky • Writer and Editor
Apr 11, 2023 5:00 PM EDT

Although this person's username is u/bridezillaxoxo, she definitely wasn't a bridezilla at her wedding — but one of her friends certainly made a fool of herself. 

Across different countries and cultures, one thing remains the same for basically every wedding: the bride and groom are the center of attention. Despite any shenanigans that happen in the lead-up to the big day, on the actual wedding day, the couple should get to enjoy the festivities. Somehow, though, drama always seems to sneak into these kind of events! 

This woman had a color palette for her wedding day that involved her maid of honor wearing black, while her bridesmaids were going to wear green. Weddings only last a few hours, but one bridesmaid could not handle wearing that color for even a few minutes. Why? It's not girly enough, nor is it a "flattering color," in the opinion of her friend Kat. No matter that the OP covered the cost of the dresses herself — for Kat, it was all about her. 

Then, this guy tipped $100, a generous gift that his waitress appreciated… until he tried to take it back from her. 

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  • 01
    Font - r/AmIthe As Posted by u/bridezillaxoxo 2 AITA for kicking out one of my bridesmaids for showing up in the wrong dress? Not the A-hole My (23F) wedding was back on Saturday December 31st and I'm still getting backlash from this, so I want to know if this was an AH move.
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    Font - In the country I live in it's currently winter, and we get a fair amount of snow so my wedding was a winter themed wedding. The color theme was forest green and gold. My dress was obviously white, and I chose the color of my bridesmaids dresses to be forest green as well. My MOH's dress was black, and everyone was to wear gold accessories.
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  • 03
    Font - I have this friend, we'll call her Kat, that I asked to be one of my bridesmaids. When we went dress shopping and I told them the color theme I was going for, Kat immediately expressed that she thought forest green was a bad choice.
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  • 04
    Font - She said the thinks it's not a flattering color, and thought I should choose something different and more "girly". I said no because my wedding was winter themed and I thought the color would go perfect with the theme. She suggested a pink, blue even a red. I said no, but thanks for your opinion. She found out my MOH"s dress was black and asked if she could wear black too? I said no, only my MOH is wearing black. I paid for all the dresses.
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  • 05
    Font - Fast forward to wedding day, everyone's getting their hair and makeup done and Kat show's up 30 minutes late holding a bag that looked like it had a dress inside. I asked her what this was for? She told me it was for later on at the reception if she got uncomfortable and wanted to change after pictures. I was like ok cool.
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  • 06
    Font - So fast forward we're all dressed and walking down the stairs because the ceremony is beginning in 30 mins and we were going to take some pictures before. Kat is the last person to come down and she's wearing a BLACK DRESS. At the time I was preoccupied taking pictures with my parents, but my MOH came over to me and made me aware of the situation.
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  • 07
    Font - I confronted Kat and asked her what was going on. She said she hates her bridesmaid dress, as the color is ugly and makes her look gross so she's wearing black. I told her please go back and change. She refused and started walking away from me. I said I'm going to ask her one more time, and if she doesn't oblige I'm calling security and kicking her out. She began yelling at me to f off, so I called security and asked them to please escort her out. She started making a BIG scene yelling ho
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  • 08
    Font - Ever since the wedding Kat has been blowing up my phone with texts saying some really nasty thing's and asking for the money back she spent on the black dress, since it was a waste and she didn't get to wear it. I had to block her number. Some of my other bridesmaids have been giving me s saying that it was a little harsh kicking her out and embarrassing her like that. And that maybe I should give her the money back. AITA for kicking her out?
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  • 09
    Rectangle - _mmiggs_ 3: 2 & 11 More Supreme Court Just-a [108] NTA. She embarrassed herself. She agreed to wear the dress you picked out, and then deceitfully planned to change at the last moment in the hope that you'd just let her get away with it. She knew that you would tell her no.
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    Font - Think of being in a wedding as like playing a part in a play, or a ballet, or something. You get cast as "bridesmaid", so you wear the costume that the artistic director has picked out for bridesmaids to wear. If you don't want to wear the costume, don't be in the show. But you can't just show up on opening night and say "I didn't like your costume choices, so I'm going to wear the same costume as this other character instead". ETA: Thanks for all the love, everyone!
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  • 11
    Rectangle - JustKindaHappenedxx Partas pant [1] Especially since OP paid for all of the Green bridesmaids dresses. Frankly she should demand that Kat pay her back for the green dress! But I think OP's plan of just blocking her and her drama is the best choice.
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    Font - NTA, OP. Kat tried to make the wedding about herself and it backfired on her. As someone above stated, she agreed to play the part of the bridesmaid and that means wearing the costume (dress) you picked out. If she's really so insecure that she can't be seen in a non-preferred color then she should have dropped out. There are SO many crazy brides out there making ridiculous demands of their wedding party and/or guests. All you did was expect your wedding party to wear the attire you picke
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  • 13
    Font - Good riddance to insecure drama queen Kat, and I'd reevaluate any other friend that tells you you're wrong for expecting basic respect and honesty from a friend on your wedding day. Good on you for not letting someone stomp on your boundaries.
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  • 14
    Font - smangela69 a dress OP picked out AND PAID FOR. nta. that girl definitely has main character syndrome
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  • 15
    Font - Talory09 And then to try to walk away while telling the bride to f off at her own wedding! The utter gall!
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    Font - lexim412 Everything you just said is a yes, but I want to add more emphasis to the "She embarrassed herself." Dude, any grown mature adult 1.) wouldn't make someone else's wedding about themselves, and 2.) if they were told they would have to be removed they would bite their tongue and get through the ceremony, or at least storm out... Not cause a giant scene. She was literally acting like a toddler not getting their way and throwing a tantrum! I would never! Like how old are we, seriousl
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